The Good, The Bad and The Ugly…

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Who am I to choose? How many of us would go back and undo becoming parents if we knew how much pain would be mixed in with the good? 

Would I go back and undo my life with my favorite pets if I knew how hard it would be to take care of them for so many years, and then to feel the pain of loss when they pass?

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What relationships have a positive impact on you?
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While I understand the question says “have” in this prompt, I like to think outside most boxes. How does one explain impact from a current thing… doesn’t it require some looking back on a thing to see whether it leaves evidence of positive or negative? How can one know for certainty, in the here and now of a relationship, whether it is a good thing for us, or a bad one? 

When we gather information, usually we do it in a survey of sorts… good points over bad ones. I choose to not let this prompt question become an unhealthy survey of life and love!

I have three adult daughters that barely look my way, six grandchildren I am not able to be close with, a family that rejected and abandoned me, a church family that kicked me out after my divorce, all but two souls that were friends turned away, we lost our home along with all that was within its walls… and on and on and on and on… see where I’m going with this? 

Let’s look a little closer at what I shared… it’s ok… this is not a pity party, in fact, it’s a walk of Praise!

The children and grandchildren were and are a miracle and a gift, so I’m not about to return them to the manufacturer… no way to separate all the good from the bad, the beauty from the ugly, nor the joy from the pain. The fibers that bind us are too tightly woven for that, as my blood runs through their veins and they share my DNA!

I remember every single pet I have ever owned, and I would not ever trade the memories, good or bad… they made my world a better place, and their memories do that for me to this very day!

The lessons I learned from the kindness and cruelty of church and friendship have made me the woman I am today… and I love who God has grown me up to become. I will take every one of my experiences, and scars as well, to guide me along the paths of this world. God uses my good, my bad, and my ugly, to guide me on as a wiser and kinder soul than when I began…

Here, have a cookie…

18 thoughts on “The Good, The Bad and The Ugly…”

  1. As I look back on my life from time to time, I see that the blessings far outweigh the bad. I am grateful for each and every experience as they all taught me something about life and also myself. Excellent, thoughtful post. Thank you for sharing it.

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  2. I need to say, “Amen my Sister, Amen.” God is good no matter what we endure and you definitely can’t choose your family. You bring life into this world as well as enjoy life whether it’s an animal, vegetable, or mineral. You are a gift. And you are definitely my gift. Although I do wish I had a child to commiserate. Big hug, what a powerful message. Gave me tears upon reflection…🕊️

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  11. Haha what a captivating title. My first thought was the old western movie of the same title lol. ……adulting is hard everybody needs a pet when the have kids lol especially on the teenage year’s and when they move out lol.

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