Thursday Thoughts…

Wiwohka

I suppose that there are times when all one can do is stand… even if the water rises or the wind blows all the windows open!

Maybe in my case, it’s writing instead of physically standing, who knows…

Often by talking too much about our feelings or circumstances, we end up feeling worse than before, as dwelling on things out of ones control does no one any good! 

When you see me write that I am tired, you already know that’s my code word for things being a bit much. I will leave it at that, as far as circumstances go.

It got me to pondering the art of Sharing Thoughts and Feelings without actually having to share specific thoughts or actual emotions.

If you’ve ever seen the movie Stargate, there is a scene early on in the movie where the young scientist is giving a lecture, trying to explain a new theory and everyone just simply gets up and walks out, leaving him standing there looking confused. Sometimes, when I talk or write too deeply, it can feel sort of like standing alone on that stage in confusion.

I guess its a bit like standing in line at the grocery store, trying to tell everyone in line what you’re buying and why you want or need the items. Why on earth do they want to listen, when they all have their own carts filled with the things they want and need for themselves.

Things would be different, I think, if those people were traveling or staying with you, thereby, requiring everyone to know what your cart had so they did not accidentally buy the same thing… in this case sharing is everything. Strangers at the grocery store, however, simply consider it OVER sharing. 

There is nothing like trying to share a thought or feeling with someone, only to see them visibly raise or roll their eyes, or worse, to see the eyes go vacant, the feet begin to shuffle, and the hands begin fidgeting.

What is also interesting, is the newfound openness people have to verbally doubt your statements, to voice their disbelief out loud, as if you are cartoon character that just tried to put one over on them!

I have my theories, as to why we, as a culture, have become so callous and downright impatient when communicating with each other, but since I stated earlier that I would share my thoughts and feelings without actually SHARING mine… I will let you come up with your own theories.

Has it really become so difficult to fully engage with each other in an authentic way?

Are we to be forever lost in some form of Therapy session somewhere, JUST to receive compassion, empathy and some dad blamed Understanding?

Most have either heard of or seen the movie The NeverEnding Story, starring Barret Oliver and Tami Stronach. *F.Y.I.* This is a spoiler alert if you haven’t seen it yet. At the end of the movie, there is a scene in which the two main characters are sitting in complete darkness. The young Empress (Stronach) is holding the tiniest piece of sand in the palm of her hand, telling Bastian (Oliver), that it only takes the tiniest bit of belief to restore everything in the land. Without oversharing here, thereby ruining the beautiful experience of the whole movie, I want to simply point out a perfect example of what I think it could be like, if one by one, we all try just a little harder with each other. 

I know, I know, I’m not exactly saying that everyone is a BOOB, but there is definitely, a great amount of boobish behavior going on in the world right now! (yes, this phrase is loosely pulled from the movie Battleship, with Taylor Kitsch). Don’t judge… I’ve no idea how I can remember such odd details, when I cannot, for the life of me, remember the name of any of my childhood teachers or friends names.

Anyways, I will leave you guys and gals with a bit of encouragement, if I can. Let’s be a village! If it takes a village to raise a child, it goes without saying that there will be a good many carers, sharers, listeners, givers, teachers, healers and providers. They should strive to offer love, compassion, grace, mercy, understanding, patience, kindness and more, but the one thing that binds the entire village to accomplish raising a healthy human being… is LOVE!

25 thoughts on “Thursday Thoughts…”

  3. We are definitely losing the art of listening. I think that people are getting so compartmentalized, dealing with their own stuff, that they are unwilling to stay in the moment to actively listen to what the other person is saying. I read a book that says, “Listening is not simply passively hearing what another person is saying. One must use nonverbal communication to indicate that the speaker is being listened to. Listening refers to hearing the entire message, including any feelings.” Listening is just one of those skills that is just hard to do. We often jump to conclusions or provide solutions when the right response is simply to listen.

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  4. If it helps, the greatest embarrassment of my life is my post TBI over sharing. I’ve tried cognitive therapy and there’s no way of fixing it. But your gift for sharing is tasteful and classy as well as gifted. Nikki

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    1. thank you sweetie… I would hate to think that folks just expect that I may be too whiny vs seeking interaction from others… I desire fellowship so much, at times I feel it comes across as too needy… lol

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      1. Not all. I’ve never perceived it. Look at your followers. I’ve been at this in earnest since 2019 building the site and 2020 baring my self. You have hundred of souls who relate within months. I have I think 60. I write to cope and celebrate. It has brought me to you. If we are trying to be Christ-like why would anyone suffering, trying to cope, feeling overwhelmed, in fear, physical pain be ‘needy’? You’re a beautiful vibrant soul. Nothing less, so much more. 💝💖💝

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      3. I got to say what’s sincere and I also got to say what I know in my heart is what makes a difference. I don’t think many people realize when a person is as deeply connected as you are, You need substance not form.

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  5. You are right about the fact that people don’t really care about each other. I live in a small town, but I only have one person I share most things in my life with. The others I know and talk to, but I share very little personal stuff. Why ? Sorry to say it, it is because of gossip. Stories get tails and end up being something other than what it was in the beginning.

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